Relationship Blues

Most of the time we're in pain, we make rash decisions, which we'd regret in one way or another, in the long run. It must be our defense mechanism to tell the world that we're strong enough to endure much pain. I'm guilty of this. This has always been one of the wicked things I always ever do to myself. The lingering pain? I try to enjoy it as it gets me through hell.

Being in a relationship always has its pros and cons. One that I've always struggled with is having to consider the other's thoughts and feelings before making a decision or doing anything because it's undeniable that you're a team now. And when you've been single for too long (especially since birth) and now in a relationship, this is something that you would have to adjust with and work on. Truth is, this is also one of the major causes of conflict with me and my person. And we've been trying to work on it since day 1.

It's not easy, yes, but it's worth the time and effort to deal with especially when your person is also worth the time and effort. There may be times when you ponder on the quality of relationship that you have, looking through it's cracks and holes, if they're compromissory or irreparable. But for an optimist's point of view, there are about 98 other ways not put the relationship in jeopardy.

One of the most effective ways everyone say is to communicate, just to talk it out and everything shall be settled. Even wars can be ceased through peace talks. After hearing both sides of the story, that's when you make a decision. Sometimes, I even have to send a photo or describe the dress I've eyed on before buying it just to make damn sure we're both happy with it. It might be too petty of an example but that's where big things start. We consult each other, ask for other ideas to get most things done. Not all the time though. There's always time for me-and-only-me time.

For me, this works perfectly just fine.

Too ordinary but I already feel like a goddam pro.